Mum-fi-dence

Sunday, 4 February 2018


I want to talk today about how becoming a mum can affect your confidence. The unknown does weird and wonderful things to us,oh and throw in a cocktail of hormones and your once organised gym honed self is now one messy Margaret (no hard feelings to any body called Margaret). However, in amongst all this chaos I somehow managed to find a new found confidence. Don't get me wrong I wasn't one of those mamas who had it sorted from the get go it's taken at least 6 months but dare I say it I'm finally finding my feet with it all...here are my best tips for finding your mum-fi-dence!

1. Join a group
I was that mum who dreaded the groups, feeling as if they are already fully fledged mamas and I really had no idea what day of the week it is let alone how to attend to every need of my new little bean. Despite a shakey start at a breastfeeding group (a story for another day) persistence paid off and what I found is that most people are in the same boat and there is a great network of mothers who help you along the way.So trall the internet, get in touch with your local children's centre and church groups you never know who you may meet!

2. Stop giving a Shit
The moment I stopped being embarrassed at buying a box of formula because I was failing with the breastfeeding or pulling out my wipes instead of the cool boiled water and cotton wool and realised that a lot of people where doing the same I relaxed into my new role. Toss the handbook out the window and do it your way and anyone that judges can do one. If you want to use your best mac lipstick and spend precious nap time to curl your hair for half an hour then sod it who is judging?

3. YOU know YOUR Baby Best
Yes that may seem like a simple one but sometime we ponder on other peoples advice when really our gut is telling us otherwise. But you get those "they've done it all before they must know better" feels, and yes they may have done it 1,2 or even 3 times before but they haven't done it with your baby so there best sleeping tips might not be right for you and your baby. So as soon as you except you know your little one best the easier the ride becomes and the guilt eases (a little).

4. Be You
Guess what under all those layers of projectile vomit,snot and shit your still the person you were before birthing small human on to this planet! It's easy to forget You and yes this is coming from a girl who has not been 'up the city' for herself in 7 months but it's important to make time for yourself and do things for you. I find that a good glass of prosecco with the girls and a baby free chin wag means I come at my mummy role with fresh eyes (if I've managed to stick to the one glass). What I want to say is it's refreshing to be you!
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